Monday, March 22, 2010

Paging Doctor Sears


I always had ideas about how I wanted to raise my kids. I wanted to bond with them. I wanted to know who they were as human beings and individuals. I believed that coming to know and respect them would lead naturally into good positive discipline. The only problem was that I didn't know how to do that.

Eventually, and thankfully, someone finally pointed me in the direction of Dr. Sears, and I learned about Attachment Parenting. It turned out that those ideas weren't permissiveness as I'd been taught. In fact, it was a simple set of tools that would allow me to form the relationships I'd always wanted with my kids.

Dr. Sears taught me that things like birth bonding, babywearing, co-sleeping, breastfeeding, and all the other "Baby B's" would allow me the time and contact that I needed to really "get behind their eyes" and see the world from the perspective of my kids. Armed with that kind of understanding I know better how to teach them. It's not enough to punish my child for hitting her sister. If I know why she hit her sister, I know how to help her see things differently and make it so she doesn't do it again.

Gentle mothering is not a set of rules and regulations to be adhered to.  It is not a legalistic methodology to be followed to the letter.  It is a way of approaching parenting that sees children as complete human beings who deserve respect.  And it provides the tools lead our children gracefully to adulthood.  As I listen to my oldest child speak kindly and gently to his baby brother in the next room, I can see the fruits of this parenting at work.  My children are growing up to respect us and each other.  And our connection is priceless.

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  1. Love it, Anne! I love your blog <3

  2. I love finding your blog. I loved Dr. Sears over 12 years ago with my first child, and now again, with our gift from God, 9 years after the youngest! God Bless You.

  3. Cara, your new baby is beautiful. Thank you for stopping by!


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